Setting F’ing SMART Locke Goals

In my social psychology class my professor recently went over SMART goals. I’ve gone over them before in a university seminar, but I loved the way my psych. prof. explained it.

Setting f’ing smart goals sounds so much more empowering than setting measly smart goals. Why be smart when you could be f’ing smart?

This whole notion is based on Locke’s theory of goal setting and at the very bottom there are examples!


These are my actual notes from class:

  • F’ing—feedback
  • S—specific
  • M—measurable
  • A—achievable (7-8 range on the challenging scale)
  • R—relevant (why am I trying to do this?)
  • T—Time bound (have some kind of expiration or due date)
  • Set sub goals that get you incrementally to the top goal, because if you jump right to the top goal, you’ll probably fail.
  • Your work ethic definitely helps, but it is not a cure all. There are some things that no matter how much you try you just can’t. Life is about exploiting your strengths. Find what you like and what you’re good at and do that.

Here I’ll explain each section in detail:

Feedback

Getting feedback or having somebody to hold you accountable always helps people reach their goals. Why do you think diets instruct you to write down every little thing you eat? It’s a way to hold yourself accountable.

Specific

If your goal isn’t specific it gives you room for excuses. This is one of the most important steps for me because I love to make excuses for myself when I don’t want to do something. On your goal paper, write down EXACTLY WHAT you want to achieve. Answer the “Who what when where why how” questions.

Measurable

This is how you’ll be able to tell if you achieve your goal(s). You can measure weight loss with a scale, you can measure graduation with a degree, etc. How can you tell that you achieved your goal?

Achievable

You have to be able to achieve your goal with little to moderate effort. The key to this is to realistically set your goals, and lead up to big goals in small, achievable increments.

Relevant

Your goal has to pertain to your current life in a way that gives reason to your goal. This is your driving force, your “why”. Why does this goal matter to you? Is in close enough in the future that you won’t procrastinate or forget about it?

Time Bound

Goals that have a ticking time clock drive you to do them. You have to give yourself a schedule and basis of when this has to be completed by. Why do you think your professors give you a due date for your homework? So you’ll do it and know when you’re done!

Examples

Losing Weight

F: Writing down everything you eat, having someone spot you at the gym, get a personal trainer at the gym to hold you accountable.

S: I want to lose 10 pounds by March 30th, 2017 by working out at Planet Fitness with a personal trainer, eating healthy  with the 21 Day Fix and by drinking 1 Shakeology shake a day.

M: I will use the scale in my room to weigh myself once when I wake up every morning until March 30th. I will measure the food I eat in ounces and calories. I will measure success by losing the 10 pounds.

A: This is achievable for me because 10 pounds is not a lot of weight for me and I have done this before. It is obtainable because I do not have to spend a lot of money and I have access to a gym.

R: This is relevant to me because it is almost Spring Break and I’m going to the beach with my new boyfriend and I want to look thin.

T: I want to lose 10 pounds by March 30th, 2017.

Studying for an Exam

F: Studying with people I can concentrate around will allow me to receive feedback by them telling me if I’m right or wrong in mock-quizzes or flashcard drills.

S: I want to study for my Macroeconomics exam every day with my study group of Joe, Maria, and John for 1 hour at Starbucks on George Street by using flashcards, asking each other questions, rewriting my notes, and taking mock-quizzes for 1 week.

M: I will measure the completeness of this goal by making a chart with a check box next to each day that I will check if I studied for the whole hour. I will have my phone to measure the time at Starbucks.

A: This is achievable because I have people that want to study with me, I’m motivated to do well on my exam, and I have ample study materials.

R: This is relevant because my exam is in 1 week and I have to make a good grade or I’ll fail the class. I don’t want to retake it!

T: This is time-bound because the exam is in one week. I also dedicate 1 hour a day to studying so I’ll be more likely to actually study, opposed to setting out 5 hours to not study.


If you have any questions about F’ing SMART goal setting; comment on this post, comment on my Facebook, or message me on Facebook!

-Jade


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2 Years in: How I Finally Learned to Study

My who, what, where, when, why, and how of studying.


When I came to college I was like, “Lol what’s a study?” But after seeing the consequences (not preforming to the best of my ability) I decided that it was time to learn how.

I guess it started my second semester and really clicked in my third.

WHO

I have to either be alone, or with someone who’s not completely annoying/distracting. I’m not going to name names or anything…

Bring somebody that will hold you accountable for fucking around and not actually doing anything. If I stop working for a while, my boyfriend usually gets on me about it.

WHAT

I have to have literally everything I need or could possibly want, because if I end up needing/wanting something and don’t have it, that drives me nuts.

I also have to make sure that I’m comfortable, which usually means no makeup and an outfit that doesn’t make me cringe despite the cuteness. I always change from my contacts to my glasses as well, just in case my contacts dry out.

WHERE

I realized that I have to be in an area conducive to studying for ME, not for someone else or a “normal” place like in my room.

Places I like studying

  • Starbucks
  • A certain chair at work
  • The far chair at the dining room table at my mom’s house
  • A particular chair at the kitchen table at my dad’s house

See how they’re kind of random? It’s because I started paying attention to where I was able to retain the most information and focus the best.

WHEN

I have to be awake–like really awake.

When I like to study

  • 9/10 in the morning (if I’ve been awake and I’m in my room)
  • 6:30-8:00 PM (if I’m at Starbucks)

As you can see, being okay with my pickiness allows me to successfully study.

WHY

I have to have some sort of motivation, so I usually try to make myself really believe that I REALLY need to study. I’ll look at things I know I don’t understand, or say out loud in some kind of way that I have no clue what I’m doing.

It also helps me to be really blunt with myself, so keeping a note in sight about why I need to focus and study helps me as well.

HOW

I go to the right place at the right time and knock everything out that I can. I can’t just “study” at look at terms or something; it needs to be a task. So doing Quizlet tests or filling out a practice sheet help me. Watching interactive videos that I already know I like (Crash Course) helps me if I need someone to explain it to me.

I also have to give myself breaks whenever I feel burnt-out or I’ve done a lot. This one takes a lot of willpower to not get carried away with, but it helps a lot.


This photo is not mine. It is from Florida Tech.

Relieve Anxiety: Don’t Forget These First-Day Essentials!

Uh-oh. School is starting again. Props to to the excited ones *rolls eyes*.

I’m sort of kidding, I am excited, but there’s some weirdness going on with my classes so I’m not holding my breath.

Anyways, I was just about to pack my bag for tomorrow and figured I should write a blog post about what to bring to your first day of classes!

Continue reading “Relieve Anxiety: Don’t Forget These First-Day Essentials!”

A Guide on How I Chose the Right College for Me (And How You Can Too)

Deciding what college to go to is a very hard decision. In this post I shared the method I used to choose colleges to apply to. This should take some stress off of your shoulders!Continue reading “A Guide on How I Chose the Right College for Me (And How You Can Too)”

8 Lessons I Learned About Drama in College

This is a repost of my Odyssey article, which you can see here! (Please look because I get paid based on views, lol)

Something I learned: People are not who they seem to be- especially when you are a scared, little freshman.


This year I got pushed around and trampled all over by people who I thought were my friends. My biggest mistake was trusting people who I barely knew just because I was in a new environment and wanted to fit in.

At the beginning of the year the girls on my floor hosted “girls’ nights” and we all gathered around and did what girls do best- gossiped. We all gossiped about ourselves, because we had nothing to say about the people we didn’t know yet. Gossiping about yourself is so much worse than gossiping about other people. Girls Night turned into “never have I ever” and “tell me your life story”. The next day it was, “She’s a slut,” and, “Wow, I hate her,” and the cliques were formed; all because of things that we confessed to people whojust wanted gossip.

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I got caught up in fake, dramatic people’s trouble all year and let it run my life instead of focusing on what I was really in college for- academics.


Something I learned: You do not have to settle for people you don’t want to be friends with just to have someone to hang out with.


How to Spot These People in Conversations (and what to say back)

1. They straight off the bat ask your opinion about people.

You know- “Heyyyy… So what do you think about Shelia? She’s kind of mean, huh?”

Say, “I don’t know her that well, so I don’t have an opinion on her.” If you say anything even remotelynegative, they will tell people.

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2. They talk about people who you thought were their friends.

“You will not believe what -enter “best friend”‘s name- did last night.”

Most likely that best friend didn’t want anybody to know. So, what you say is, “I don’t think that is any of my business, and ‘m sure she wouldn’t want other people to know either.”

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3. They’re always “here for you”- but only when you’re upset.

*Pats your back* “Oh, honey, it’s okay, I’m here for you.” *Posts dirt on Twitter to start more drama*.

Do not give them the details, and kindly tell them that you will be okay and just need some alone time.

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4. They randomly get mad at you and make a big deal out of it.

For example, you think everything is fine and dandy until they randomly block you on everything and say passive aggressive things about you. This one happened to me a lot this year.

With this one you have options based on what you seem fit. What I usually do is talk to them directly about it so there is no telephone game style confusion. Plus, by asking other people what her problem is, drama spreads more.Source: Giphy.com

5. Also, I have noticed that these types of people in college do not really care about academics, and are more focused on their friend group.

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How to Protect Yourself in These Situations:

1. Do not talk about your personal life to people who are really still strangers (less than 3-4 months of friendship)

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2. Make it seem like you’re always doing fine; don’t talk about the problems you’re having.

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3. Try to distance yourself socially and mentally from people you do not know or like (Side note: by all means, be social, but not with people who display the character traits listed above)

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4. Do not feed into drama. This means: don’t respond to salty Twitter posts, turn the other cheek, don’t talk about anyone in any way, and focus on yourself.

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My boyfriend says something sad (but true) about me and the people I befriend; I have a “2 month rule”. After 2 months I get rid of my new friends or we have a big fight and end up hating each other. Honestly, it’s true. My problem is that I trust these random people and hope that their heart is as good as mine- which rarely happens. In the rare circumstance that I find one of these people, we are friends for longer than 2 months. My best friends and I have been friends all freshman year, because we did not immediately trust one another and talk about each other behind our backs. Find people that you truly get along with and like, and make them your friends. I wish I had been friendless for a few months rather than having 8 different close friends in a few months.

Take home message: Do not divulge your personal life into people you just met. Wait until you have been friends with them at least for more than two months. You don’t need to make your life harder with unnecessary drama.

My First Semester

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In the beginning of December I completed my first semester of college. It was unnecessarily dramatic, but also very productive! I’m going to share with you What I Learned To Do, What I Learned Not To Do, and What I Will be Doing Differently Next Semester.

What I Learned To Do:

  • Experiment with different techniques of note taking, because (most likely) different classes will call for different kinds. For example, in Biology for Majors I found that it was most beneficial when I scribbled down all of my notes and rewrote them later. Contrarily, in U.S. History I needed to take very precise, short notes and listen more than I wrote.
  • Take some time away from other people. Whether it is a few minutes, hours, days, or weeks; if you need that time, your friends will understand. It’s very stressful to constantly be around people- especially the same people over and over again. Sometimes you need to remove yourself and take some time to relax or do things on your own. It helps you stay sane.
  • Use campus resources to your advantage. I don’t have a laptop. I used to borrow my boyfriend’s for assignments, but after a while I started to feel bad and would procrastinate so I didn’t have to borrow it again. All it did was stress both of us out. Theeennnnn… I visited this beautiful place called the computer lab, and all of my problems were solved! It’s free, I rarely have to wait, and I can stay there as long as I want. I mean, I was forced to pay the fee anyways, I might as well use it!
  • Realize that not everybody sucks. There were a lot of bad people that entered my life this semester, but there were also a lot of good people. Sadly, I gave the bad people what they wanted- attention. Instead of paying attention to the people that were consistently nice to me, I was always focusing my energy towards the bad people. Find the people that are good to you and keep them around.

What I Learned Not To Do:

  • Procrastinate! It only makes you more stressed than you already are.
  • Get wrapped up in drama. I am going to try my hardest to not get into drama this next semester, because it’s pointless and all it does is drag me down. No, I really don’t care if Kelly’s bangs look stupid and I don’t care that Jessica and Rosaline are fighting.
  • Share my opinion, mainly on politics. I have found that college kids are very into politics- I’d imagine because they’re of voting age and because of the upcoming election. I have also found that if you have a different opinion than somebody, 8/10 times that person is going to hate you and talk bad about you. It’s ridiculous, I know, but from now on I’m just going to keep my opinions to myself. Quietness > Screaming matches.
  • Tell people about my personal life. I don’t think I really have to explain this one…
  • Only call my mom when I need financial help. I don’t think I have to explain this one either…
  • Hang out with people that I don’t like hanging out with because I feel obligated to. If you don’t like somebody, they make you feel bad, or whatever- you don’t have to give them the time of DAY.
  • Hang out with the same people 24/7. Don’t get me wrong- it’s GREAT if you found someone that you absolutely love hanging out with- but you need to give each other some breathing room or you’ll end up getting extremely annoyed with each other (I’ve seen this happen a lot).

What I Will Be Doing Differently Next Semester:

  • When somebody asks me something I don’t want to answer, don’t answer it! There are oodles of ways to nicely dismiss somebody’s question if you aren’t comfortable answering it. For example, “I don’t share my political views” and leave it at that.
  • Not opening up to people right away. My tendency to open up to new friends right away really bit me in the butt this semester, and I don’t want it to happen again.
  • Focus more on why I’m actually attending college- my education. Drama can wait. I need to study for my history final. My life, education, diploma, and future are more important than your pettiness.

Leave any comments, tips, ideas, questions, etc in the comment section! I would love to hear from you!

-Jaedyn